What Options are Best for Me and My Baby?
ADOPTION |
ABORTION |
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| SIMILARITIES |
You can pursue earlier goals and plans. |
You can pursue earlier goals and plans. |
You can live independently. |
You can live independently. |
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You will not have to plan prematurely. |
You will not have to plan prematurely. |
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You will be free from the financial burdens of parenting. |
You will be free from the financial burdens of parenting. |
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You will have the freedom to choose if you want to have a long-term relationship with the baby's father. |
You will have the freedom to choose if you want to have a long-term relationship with the baby's father. |
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You can resume your education or career. |
You can resume your education or career. |
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| DIFFERENCES |
Your pregnancy ends with giving life. |
Your pregnancy ends with death. |
You may feel good and positive about your choice. |
You may feel guilt and shame about your choice. |
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You will remember giving birth. |
You will remember taking a life. |
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You will have plenty of time to plan your and your baby's future. |
Abortion is FINAL; you can't reverse your decision. |
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You can hold, name and love your baby. |
You will never know or treasure your baby. |
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You can have continued contact with your child. |
You will miss the opportunity to see your child develop. |
ADOPTION |
SINGLE PARENTING |
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| SIMILARITIES |
You give your child life. |
You give your child life. |
You can plan for your baby's future. |
You can plan for your baby's future. |
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You can hold and name your baby. |
You can hold and name your baby. |
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You can know how your baby is growing and developing. |
You can know how your baby is growing and developing. |
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| DIFFERENCES |
You will not have to parent before you are ready. |
You will have a parental role, 24/7. |
You can choose a two-parent family for your baby. |
You will not have the support of a spouse. |
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You will be free from the financial responsibilities of parenting. |
You will be more likely to struggle financially. |
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You can continue with your education or career. |
You may need to delay your education or career. |
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You may have the freedom to continue or to end a relationship with the other birthparent. |
You may be unwillingly involved in a long-term relationship with the other birthparent. |
Source: Bethany Christian Services. Used by permission.