Tell Me More About Adoption
If you are not ready to be a parent, you can still give your baby the gift of life by choosing adoption. You can plan for your baby's future by selecting a stable, loving family to care for your baby. After birth, you can see your baby, name your baby, and spend time with your baby. If you so choose, you can get updates on your child's progress or have ongoing visits throughout your child's life while you continue your education or career goals. Finally, you avoid the trauma and heartbreak of abortion. You can be proud that you chose life for your baby.
Yes! With most adoption agencies, you can choose a family friend, acquaintance, or someone who has been recommended to you, even someone in another state. Or you can choose from couples screened by your agency-couples who have been waiting to become parents.
You may have as much contact with your baby at the hospital as you desire. When planning your child's future, you can choose an open adoption plan that allows ongoing visits with your child, or you can choose a less open adoption that keeps you informed about your child's progress through letters and pictures. Adoptive families respect your need to know that your child is loved and happy. If you prefer not to have any ongoing contact with your child and adoptive family, confidential plans are also possible.
The laws in your state determine when and how your child may have access to information in the adoption file. If you have written consent, your child will have access to your identity, and the agency from which you received counseling will assist your child in the search. If you choose a confidential adoption, your identity will remain anonymous, as long as you wish it.
Adoptive families approved by your agency must meet standards that are shared with you. Adoption agencies make every attempt to complete a thorough assessment of potential adoptive families. Prior to finalizing the adoption, the agency will make home visits to ensure the child's well-being. In an open adoption, you will see for yourself how well your child is cared for and how much your child is loved.
Ask the representative if they provide:
- Counselors who will offer information about your options, so that you can make an informed decision.
- Support in talking to your family and the birthfather.
- Assistance with medical and living expenses.
- Assistance with finding alternative living arrangements (if needed) during your pregnancy.
- Information about community resources, if you decide to parent.
- Help in selecting an adoptive family, if you choose adoption.
- Follow-up counseling after the baby is born, if desired.
Source: Birth Parents: 10 Most Asked Questions About Adoption and Pregnant? Now What?, Bethany Christian Services. Used by permission.